Get Your Ex Back - The Romantic Way

To get your ex back, it is important to put the lost romance back into your relationship.

I know you may feel like your heart has been stomped on by Bigfoot and romance may be the last thing on your mind. But, unfortunately, relationships do not always flow smoothly. One thing for certain is that when it is not working, there is little to no romance. By the way, romance does not equal sex…for most people.



If you follow the following steps you have a good chance to get them back.



The first thing you want to do is give them time to calm down. Trying to force them to communicate with you only hurts your cause like saying "Hey we need to talk Now!". That usually does not work You can use this time to think about what happened and your part in it.



OK, now since you have your game plan, it is time to get them to talk with you. This may be a little scary, use some courage here. Buck up! You can do it! Try calling them up. In person is the best, but you do not want to become a stalker.



What if they do not want to talk to you. Now what? If you call and they do not answer, just leave a voice mail letting them know you would like to talk with them and wait for their return call. Do not keep calling and saying things like " Answer the phone, I know you are there".



During the call it is important to remain calm and speak in a peaceful tone. "Why didn’t you answer my calls", in an angry tone will not help. Apologize, compliment them, talk sweetly, be honest about what you want. Let them know what they mean to you.



I know at this point you might feel that you are "sucking up’. Well, you are! You want them back don’t you?



See if you can get them to express their feelings about what they want. Be a good listener. Be careful that they do not use this as an opportunity to beat you up. Many will try this. Remind them that you guys are being constructive here.



Ask for a date. It probably would not be a good idea to beg at this point, we can save that for later. Keep this conversation brief, the goal is a date. Now you can plan a Romantic Date (Not McDonald’s). Unless that is all you can afford. Choose somewhere you both were happy, somewhere with a quiet romantic atmosphere. Bring a present (Not money). Smile, be charming, polite, and considerate. You know, more sucking up. Keep it light, no serious conversation unless your ex brings it up. If that happens, steer the conversation back to positive things.



Let things flow naturally. Allow the Romantic spark to reignite This does not mean trying to get them into bed. Well, not yet anyway. If things go well on the date, you do not need to ask them back. If they want you back you will know. Of course, if you mess this up they may ask you to stop calling them and maybe call you a name. But we will think positive here.



Follow the date with a call and continue to move forward with romantic experiences outside of the house as well as indoors. Enjoy your new beginning and keep loving romantically.



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